2 days on my SAHM stint, how do I feel??
A part of me is really happy since I haven’t been able to do this since maternity leave (well, except some days I took leave to be with Ayra and when she had her jabs) and another part of me is still sliiiightly freaking out. Not that it has been extremely tough, I still take care of her fulltime during the weekends and all, I dunno why in the world am I feeling this way. When she’s awake, I worry I don’t know how to entertain her and since I can’t pass her on to anyone, I freaked. When she won’t sleep, I worry again, why is it soo hard for her to sleep? When she is asleep, I worry about when is she getting up, is she not hungry? Gahhhhh I wish I could just take some prozac and chill.
It’s not too bad really.. what hubbs told me was entirely true. I told him about my fears of being overwhelmed and he told me not to worry, the moment she smiles, I shall forget everything. And forget I did :)
Anyways, I had some chance to read up (my bible is The Baby Book by Dr. Sears) and I am wondering, maybe you mommies can share with me some tips, how do you guys put your babies to sleep? Now and maybe as a reference to me, when they were 4 months old? For us, putting Ayra to sleep is a bit of a struggle, she will either nurse to sleep (and that can take like up to an hour or more) or if the daddy puts her to sleep; he will put the pacifier in, hold her in a lying down position and he will sit at the edge of the bed and bounce with her till she sleeps. I don’t have the strength nor patience to do that hehehe. I read in Baby Center about letting the baby fall asleep on their own, but I don’t think Ayra can do that yet. We can only put her down after she is deeply asleep, if she’s not, her eyes will shoot open wide the moment we lay her down in the cot. Any tips on how we can make sleeping easier? I am afraid of waiting too long as she might be stuck with that way of sleeping till forever and she is coming on 5 months soon! There are days when we thought she is asleep and we put her down and then she suddenly wakes up and cries and the whole process has to be repeated again and again till she is really asleep. Not saying that I am complaining, I just don’t want to get her used to this IF there is an alternative else I will be putting myself in trouble if I have to rock her to sleep at 3 years old!
How? Is my daughter the only one like this? Hope for tips from other mommies…
Hi there, im not sure if what i say can help sbb i thk some ppl would say my ways ni pun spoiling my son. Yazid used to have problem nak tido jugak when he was abt 4-5 mths old. Either i nurse him to sleep or his dad kena dukung dia until he falls asleep (like u, i also wouldnt hv the patience hehe). but lately ni, i would nurse him while lying down and we both fall asleep together (i co-sleep btw, the cot is just for show haha) or if dia mmg dah ngantuk but didnt want to nurse, we would just baringkan dia on the bed while he takes his time twisting n turning and we just tepuk2 dia and in abt 10 mins he’ll fall asleep. I think slowly lah Ayra will learn to sleep on her own. Now maybe she just needs your body warmth and presence baru dia boleh nak tido. Yazid dulu pun everytime dia terlelap, bila letak je terus bukak mata balik. memang stress. but alhamdulillah now kurang dah mcm tu. maybe cuz he plays a lot during the day now, bila malam he’ll be pretty tired n will just wanna go to bed. anyway I really doubt you’ll hv to rock her to sleep once she’s 3 yrs old! hehe sorry, panjang lah pulak!
buai kain!!!
Hey there Yanz,
I’m a full time SAHM,and breastfed exclusively my baby till she’s almost 2 1/2 yrs.
Hetz tips up there on nursing while lying down on the bed works for me too! Most of the time mommy tido dulu, lol! I totally understand how exhausted it must be for you when it is so hard to put her to sleep. every baby is different, but this shall pass and it will be a good memory few years from now on.
And don’t start with buaian thingy, you’ll be spoiling her and in the future will be too troublesome when travelling with the baby.
Hope tht helps!
i have to say that the lying-down-nursing thingy worked for us as well. Don’t worry, hang in there! we had the same problem with Gib too, when he was about 4-5 months old. And hetz is right again; once they start moving about, they’ll get soo tired, they’ll fall asleep easily (insyaallah!). we co-sleep with Gib as well (yesss the cot is for show!) up till now, coz everytime he gets startled in his sleep, he’d twist and turn till he jams himself up against the warmth of one of us punya body. and he’d fall asleep again immediately. my sister used to co-sleep with all her 3 eldest kids too. now she still co-sleeps with her 4th one. so far no problems nak separate them and get them to sleep on their own, once they stop breastfeeding (so far lah! ) so i hope Gib pun nanti boleh adjust accordingly…when the time comes. i gotta say the best tip i got was from nadia (http://www.chubbyschmubby.com/), when i had major trouble putting gib down for daytime naps. she suggested i lie down in bed beside him and cuddle him. well.. but every baby is different, of course. i think alya’s just trying to find her thing.. :)
hetz: thanks for the tips! sama la the way we put them to sleep hehehe.. glad to hear that it gets better! i just put her down in her cot before the first night feeding, lepas tu co-sleep dah sebab malas nak letak balik hahaha.
weween: isk isk dah besar nanti susah!
zach: welcome! wow u managed to bfeed for 2.5 years! that’s a real achievement! bravo to you girl i really respect u!
babybooned: yeah thats what i try most of the time too, just lie her down with me… it takes a looong time but she will eventually sleep.. thanks for the tips!
Thanks Yanz, it wasn’t easy, but well worth it. I even bf’ing in public (discreetly of course)when we were in Europe. Nobody cares pun kat sana. hehe. Now I feel like having 2nd child plak, miss breastfeeding lah!
btw, you’re friends with Kecik & all kan? He’s my daughter’s fav Uncle ‘Ketik’, hehe
i was just like u too kiddo’s mom!letak je,ngagis,bukak mata blk.stressful tol!but,like others mention,this thing shall pass.one day,she’ll know how to sleep,and let her mommy daddy has a goodnite sleep too.
selamat berpuasa!
zach: hehehe i STILL do breastfeed in public here. i bought this nursing cover wrap thing thata looks like a poncho and i dont really care what the public thinks hehehe. yeah i am kecik’s friend :)
ira: stressful kan??? even worse, past few days the ONLY way she will sleep is if i nurse her to sleep! cara lain semua tak jalan… hmmm nevermind this won’t last forever huh….
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