If your child gets upset when you leave her now, she’s right on schedule. Twelve to 18 months is prime time for separation anxiety, a psychological term that means your toddler can’t bear to be without you. The best way to handle painful farewells is to keep them short and sweet: Say goodbye with a quick kiss and head out the door. Your toddler’s tears will subside soon after you’re out of sight. It’s hard not to feel guilty, but in the long run you’ll help your child become more independent. - from Baby Center mailers

The bittersweet thingys of being a parent. Ayra doesn’t do this much; most days she will still be asleep when I head out the door (but Daddy always gets to play with her in the mornings hmmph!). This is fine with me, but I just love her in the mornings. The sleepiness still in her eyes, the messy bed-hair, the ‘masam’-ness of her neck and face! But she never fails to show u that smile that sweet smile even with half-closed eyes. No matter how hard it is to get her to bed at night, she (usually) wakes up cheerful.

But there was 1 occasion lately when she was up early and she and Daddy was seeing me out the door. I carried her for a while and kissed her goodbye but then she refused to be passed on to Daddy and clinged to me and criedddddddd her lungs out! I had to leave, I was already late then, but tears welled up my eyes leaving her crying like that (yeah yeah Mommy is a bit of a cry-baby also lah).

Ayra never had problems with the maid. The maid adored her and vice versa. Sometimes, she WANTS the maid even though we’re around. When we have our dinner, we always put Ayra in her high chair and usually she sits still. That is, until she sees the maid walk by hahaha. Then she’d want to be carried. In other words, she has never refused the maid before. But this morning she did. When I tried to pass her to the maid (I left for work late), she clung to me and again, cried when I pried her off. It’s so hard to leave the house when your child cries out for u huh :(

We gotta work on the separation anxiety issues, as it’s affecting me as well. I sooooo don’t feel like going to work on days she cling to me :D

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